I am blessed to be within a community of many individuals and families who all shine in their own way. A beautiful community has been ever present in my life since my conception, but sometimes I simply live without taking the time to truly take in the caring and love my friends provide one another. This trip I am on to the Southwest was inspired not because of the want for warm weather, nor the lack of sunshine in Oregon, but because a brother of mine had fallen in a terribly crippling manner. His life had been saved by the graciousness of God, and the kindness of those in his community.
As a brother of mine I felt a terrible helplessness being so far away. I wanted to come to be with my friend in his time of need, so I left my community in the Northwest and came home to my community in Flagstaff.
There is no better example of beauty in our human race than the healing process. Healing is the bringing together of a whole, the reuniting of broken pieces. This can be as physical as bolting a broken femur back together. Although sometimes the most beautiful kind of healing happens when pieces are connected that have been so separated that they have forgotten about each other. I came here to Flagstaff because I wanted to help my friend put his pieces back together. I wanted to bring him food, and water, flowers, and fresh air. I wanted to pick up his tools in his shop and build beautiful art with him. I wanted to somehow find a way to put the broken pieces of his body back where they belonged.
Alas, I am only a man. I brought with me no magical tools to reunite bones who have lost hold of their other half. I have no technique to heal pain that doctors do not possess. I have not power tools that will magically transform my friend's shop into a functional shop with orders being filled daily.
No I am a man, and man possesses only that which is within himself.. When I left Oregon, I wondered what I held within. I felt that my soul was filled with love for my injured brother, and my body possessed energy enough to complete many tasks. I knew that I was scared, because I did not know what I would do. My mind said that it was very bright and it was ready to solve problems.
But I am a man, and men do not often think of their emotions. Either as tool that they may use to repair a broken piece, nor a hindrance to be considered. But as I was leaving Oregon my emotions could no longer be ignored nor forgotten. In fact they overwhelmed me. I was leaving a community I love, and a sister of mine who knows me very well. I was embarking upon a journey that required courage, but also the ability to surrender my preconceptions. It is a journey that beckoned, but too much personal baggage was not allowed. So I began to open my feelings, and let out the sadness that I felt to be leaving those I love if only for a while.
The healing process that my brother and friend is engaged in is both excruciating, and intense, hopeful, and saddening. I knew that my friend was in need of healing, and I was coming to help. But as any good care provider knows; you must be in good health yourself before you can help another.
I think that teaching someone how to unicycle is somewhat akin to providing care for an injured person. First you must know the basic principles of the movement art yourself. Next you must understand that balance is not actually difficult when it is achieved. Third you must remain positive in the face of mounting uncertainty, and believe that the incomprehendable is possible.
I believed that I was ready to help my friend learn to heal. I stepped into the Southwest, into the community here I love, and into the family I love. There he lay. Stretched out like the eternal cat. Relaxed (partially paralyzed), yet anxious at not knowing what the next moment would bring. He looked at me with so much hope, and positivity, and thanked me for coming to be with him. It was then that I began to remember something the little ones I have taught to unicycle have taught me: Often the teacher learns, and the student teaches.
During the days that have passed since my arrival my friend has never let his attitude diminish, to lose hope, or become upset that such a condition has been imposed upon him. He has instead been a great inspiration to me. This brother of mine says "I'm just glad to be alive.", and "I just want my back to stop hurting so I can get back to cooking and working in my shop". He is his bright self, and I am so thankful to be alive with him.
I think to myself how fortunate I am to be alive, and I realize that it is not I who is teaching him how to heal, but he who is teaching me to have hope in humanity. In these actions of strength, and positivity, I break down sometimes. I surrender to the beauty all around, and I remember that balance is essential to staying up in this world. I look at my crippled brother, and I am so thankful that he is willing to teach me to see the beauty in my world.
I realize that I did bring tools for this journey that doctors do not have at their command. I can make a friend laugh, or think of a beautiful memory we shared together. I can bring him new hope with each cup of water at his side, and every tool we put back in place in his shop. I may not posses tools to bolt bone back to bone, but I can share in his hope. Hope of wholeness and a future of possibility.
As this journey carries on, I remember that to heal is to be whole. And to be whole is to feel and see the entire being.
With this in mind I ride the wave of life with a new vigor, and a tenderness that I am only learning to develop.